Jack Day

Jack Day is the founder and publisher of MasculisM.ca. He is a vocal advocate for human rights working with many Men’s rights groups and organizations from around the world.

May 212013
 

Roll of Honour — List of URLs for websites filtered/blocked by O2 and Symantec

Apr 172013
 

Barbara Kay speaks at her book signing event in Toronto on April 15, 2013. Her book, Acknowledgements, is a must read as she sheds light on many of the social matters that affect all of us especially men who she advocates for. You can get her book at Ben McNally Books, 366 Bay Street, Toronto. 416-361-0032 www.benmcnallybooks.com

Feb 262013
 

Is it just me? Or do I see so many women speaking out against feminism now days; it almost seems to be to the same degree as men?

I believe the tipping point has been reached ether way. While we still have ideology and the media clinging to the old ways, it’s just a matter of time before the truth permeates throughout society. . However, there is one thing that still bothers me. It’s the tolerance that the feminist movement should continue exist at all. Some people seem to believe it can be tailored, amended, adjusted, and adapted in some ways that will make it more palatable. That in doing so, it will continue to propagate but in a healthy and measured way. That it will abandon historical fundamental teachings, its negative social aspects, it’s linear hatred of all things men and boys and tendencies toward violence by governmental proxy.

To those of you that believe this is a reasoned approach toward feminism, by the MRM, and all concerned peoples, I’d like to ask you…

What part of racism or nazism we should keep? Or have we come to the greater conclusion that these are ideologies based on the fundamentals of hatred and should therefore be abolished completely?

Beware! The feminist movement will try to dilute these truths by deluding the public into believing in concepts like “radfems” and “NAFALT” but this is most certainly only a delusion. It’s a form of othering to deflect the truth.

Feminism is a doctrine of hatred and violence that needs to be destroyed in all its forms.

Feb 122013
 

FeministsMisandryMen… you know?… They’re a funny lot indeed!. It is the hallmark of Men to go to the moon, understand physics, and create a billion transistors that will fit on the head of a pin. Why? Because when there is a thought about something, that forms understandings, it will inevitably propose a dilemma about almost any given topic. Then, we want to fix it.

The truth is, Men, and boys, created this world and most all things in it with this fundamental inquisitiveness, about this world, as it is, and how can we make it somehow better.

I myself, have often pondered this conundrum about feminism, many times over again, and while there may not be one true answer that describes everything, sometimes, we are forced to subscribe to suitable workarounds to the problems.

It is for these innovations, I am so inspired by the intuitiveness, of all men and boys. .
So say it! Because, “I am a boy”

Feminist Quotes

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Feb 052013
 

little bitchHere are some quotes by renowned feminist and feminists organizations that describe the back-bone of feminist theory.

“The nuclear family must be destroyed… Whatever its ultimate meaning, the break-up of families now is an objectively revolutionary process.” — Linda Gordon

“I feel that ‘man-hating’ is an honorable and viable political act, that the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against the class that is oppressing them.” — Robin Morgan, Ms. Magazine Editor.

“I haven’t the faintest notion what possible revolutionary role white hetero- sexual men could fulfill, since they are the very embodiment of reactionary- vested-interest-power. But then, I have great difficulty examining what men in general could possibly do about all this. In addition to doing the **bleep**work that women have been doing for generations, possibly not exist? No, I really don’t mean that. Yes, I really do.” — Robin Morgan

“We can’t destroy the inequities between men and women until we destroy marriage.” — Robin Morgan

“I claim that **bleep** exists any time sexual intercourse occurs when it has not been initiated by the woman, out of her own genuine affection and desire.”
– Robin Morgan

From her “The Demon Lover” (NY: Norton & Co., 1989 Morgan doesn’t hide her bigotry):

* p. 138-9: The phallic malady is epidemic and systemic… each individual male in the patriarchy is aware of his relative power in the scheme of things…. He knows that his actions are supported by the twin pillars of the State of man – the brotherhood ritual of political exigency and the brotherhood ritual of a sexual thrill in dominance. As a devotee of Thanatos, he is one with the practitioner of sado-masochistic “play” between “consenting adults,” as he is one with the rapist.
* p. 224: My white skin disgusts me. My passport disgusts me. They are the marks of an insufferable privilege bought at the price of others’ agony.
* p. 229: Sex to this point in my life has been trivial, at best a gesture of tenderness, at worst a chore. I couldn’t understand the furor about it.
* p. 316: Did she die of the disease called “family” or the disease called “rehabilitation”, of poverty or drugs or pornography, of economics or sexual slavery or a broken body?

“And let’s put one lie to rest for all time: the lie that men are oppressed, too, by sexism–the lie that there can be such a thing as ‘men’s liberation groups.’ Oppression is something that one group of people commits against another group, specifically because of a ‘threatening’ characteristic shared by the latter group–skin, color, sex or age, etc. The oppressors are indeed ****ED UP by being masters, but those masters are not OPPRESSED. Any master has the alternative of divesting himself of sexism or racism–the oppressed have no alternative–for they have no power but to fight. In the long run, Women’s Liberation will of course free men–but in the short run it’s going to cost men a lot of privilege, which no one gives up willingly or easily. Sexism is NOT the fault of women–kill your fathers, not your mothers”.
– Robin Morgan

“To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he’s a machine, a walking dildo.”
– Valerie Solanas, Authoress of the SCUM Manifesto

“Life in this society being, at best, an utter bore and no aspect of society being at all relevant to women, there remains to civic-minded, responsible, thrill-seeking females only to overthrow the government, eliminate the money system, institute complete automation, and destroy the male sex.”
– Valerie Solana, SCUM founder (Society for Cutting Up Men.)

“The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness…can be trained to do most things.”
– Jilly Cooper, SCUM (Society For Cutting Up Men, started by Valerie Solanas)

“Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the women’s movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage.” — Sheila Cronin, the leader of the feminist organization NOW

“I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig.” — Andrea Dworkin

“Marriage as an institution developed from **bleep** as a practice.” — Andrea Dworkin

“Heterosexual intercourse is the pure, formalized expression of contempt for women’s bodies.” — Andrea Dworkin

“In my own life, I don’t have intercourse. That is my choice.” — Andrea Dworkin

Under patriarchy, every woman’s son is her potential betrayer and also the inevitable rapist or exploiter of another woman.” — Andrea Dworkin

“To be **bleep**able, a position that is social, not biological, defines what a woman is.” — Andrea Dworkin

“Q: People think you are very hostile to men.
A: I am.” — Andrea Dworkin

“Men use the night to erase us.” — Andrea Dworkin

“The annihilation of a woman’s personality, individuality, will, character, is prerequisite to male sexuality.” — Andrea Dworkin

“Men love death. In everything they make, they hollow out a central place for death, let its rancid smell contaminate every dimension of whatever still survives. Men especially love murder. In art they celebrate it, and in life they commit it. They embrace murder as if life without it would be devoid of passion, meaning, and action, as if murder were solace, stilling their sobs as they mourn the emptiness and alienation of their lives.”
– Andrea Dworkin

“Men are rapists, batterers, plunderers, killers; these same men are religious prophets, poets, heroes, figures of romance, adventure, accomplishment, figures ennobled by tragedy and defeat. Men have claimed the earth, called it ‘Her’. Men ruin Her. Men have airplanes, guns, bombs, poisonous gases, weapons so perverse and deadly that they defy any authentically human imagination.”
– Andrea Dworkin, Pornography: Men Possessing Women

“On the Left, on the Right, in the Middle; Authors, statesmen, thieves; so-called humanists and self-declared fascists; the adventurous and the contemplative, in every realm of male expression and action, violence is experienced and articulated as love and freedom.”
– Andrea Dworkin, Pornography: Men Possessing Women.

“The institution of sexual intercourse is anti-feminist” — Ti-Grace Atkinson

“Feminism is the theory, lesbianism is the practice.” — Ti-Grace Atkinson

“**bleep** is nothing more or less than a conscious process of intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of fear” — Susan Brownmiller; Authoress of Against Our Will p.6

“When a woman reaches orgasm with a man she is only collaborating with the patriarchal system, eroticizing her own oppression.” — Sheila Jeffrys

“Politically, I call it **bleep** whenever a woman has sex and feels violated.” — Catherine MacKinnon

“All sex, even consensual sex between a married couple, is an act of violence perpetrated against a woman.” — Catherine MacKinnon

“You grow up with your father holding you down and covering your mouth so another man can make a horrible searing pain between your legs.”
– Catherine MacKinnon (Prominent legal feminist scholar; University of Michigan, & Yale.)

“In a patriarchal society, all heterosexual intercourse is **bleep** because women, as a group, are not strong enough to give meaningful consent.”
– Catharine MacKinnon, quoted in Professing Feminism: Cautionary Tales from the Strange World of Women’s Studies.

“The more famous and powerful I get the more power I have to hurt men.” — Sharon Stone; Actress

“Ninety-five percent of women’s experiences are about being a victim. Or about being an underdog, or having to survive… women didn’t go to Vietnam and blow things up. They are not Rambo.”
– Jodie Foster; Actress – as quoted in The New York Times Magazine.

“The proportion of men must be reduced to and maintained at approximately 10% of the human race.” — Sally Miller Gearhart, in The Future – If There Is One – Is Female.

“And if the professional rapist is to be separated from the average dominant heterosexual (male), it may be mainly a quantitative difference.”
– Susan Griffin, **bleep**: The All-American Crime.

“If life is to survive on this planet, there must be a decontamination of the Earth. I think this will be accompanied by an evolutionary process that will result in a drastic reduction of the population of males.” –Mary Daly, former Professor at Boston College, 2001.

“If anyone is prosecuted for filing a false report, then victims of real attacks will be less likely to report them.” – David Angier

“Men who are unjustly accused of **bleep** can sometimes gain from the experience.” – Catherine Comins

“As long as some men use physical force to subjugate females, all men need not. The knowledge that some men do suffices to threaten all women. He can beat or kill the woman he claims to love; he can **bleep** women…he can sexually molest his daughters… THE VAST MAJORITY OF MEN IN THE WORLD DO ONE OR MORE OF THE ABOVE.”
– Marilyn French (her emphasis)

‎My feelings about men are the result of my experience. I have little sympathy for them. Like a Jew just released from Dachau, I watch the handsome young Nazi soldier fall writhing to the ground with a bullet in his stomach and I look briefly and walk on. I don’t even need to shrug. I simply don’t care. What he was, as a person, I mean, what his shames and yearnings were, simply don’t matter.”
– Marilyn French; The Woman’s Room.

“All patriarchists exalt the home and family as sacred, demanding it remain inviolate from prying eyes. Men want privacy for their violations of women… All women learn in childhood that women as a sex are men’s prey.”
– Marilyn French

“All men are rapists and that’s all they are”
– Marilyn French, Authoress; (later, advisoress to Al Gore’s Presidential Campaign.)

“The media treat male assaults on women like **bleep**, beating, and murder of wives and female lovers, or male incest with children, as individual aberrations…obscuring the fact that all male violence toward women is part of a concerted campaign.”
– Marilyn French

“I believe that women have a capacity for understanding and compassion which man structurally does not have, does not have it because he cannot have it. He’s just incapable of it.”
– Barbara Jordan; Former Congresswoman.

“Probably the only place where a man can feel really secure is in a maximum security prison, except for the imminent threat of release.”
– Germaine Greer.

“Man-hating is everywhere, but everywhere it is twisted and transformed, disguised, tranquilized, and qualified. It coexists, never peacefully, with the love, desire, respect, and need women also feel for men. Always man-hating is shadowed by its milder, more diplomatic and doubtful twin, ambivalence.”
– Judith Levine; Authoress

“Men’s sexuality is mean and violent, and men so powerful that they can ‘reach WITHIN women to ****/construct us from the inside out.’ Satan-like, men possess women, making their wicked fantasies and desires women’s own. A woman who has sex with a man, therefore, does so against her will, ‘even if she does not feel forced.’
– Judith Levine, (explicating comment profiling prevailing misandry.)

“I feel what they feel: man-hating, that volatile admixture of pity, contempt, disgust, envy, alienation, fear, and rage at men. It is hatred not only for the anonymous man who makes sucking noises on the street, not only for the rapist or the judge who acquits him, but for what the Greeks called philo-aphilos, ‘hate in love,’ for the men women share their lives with–husbands, lovers, friends, fathers, brothers, sons, coworkers.”
– Judith Levine, Authoress of My Enemy, My love

“There are no boundaries between affectionate sex and slavery in (the male) world. Distinctions between pleasure and danger are academic; the dirty-laundrylist of ‘sex acts’…includes **bleep**, foot binding, fellatio, intercourse, auto eroticism, incest, **bleep** intercourse, use and production of pornography, cunnilingus, sexual harassment, and murder.”
– Judith Levine; summarizing comment on the WAS document, (A southern Women’s Writing Collective: Women Against Sex.)

“All men are good for is ****ing, and running over with a truck”.
Statement made by A University of Maine Feminist Administrator, quoted by Richard Dinsmore, who brought a successful civil suit against the University in the amount of $600,000. Richard had protested the quote; was dismissed thereafter on the grounds of harassment; and responded by bringing suit against the University. 1995 settlement.

((Delaney Nickerson, of the American Coalition for ABUSE AWARENESS, refers to the False Memory Syndrome Foundation as “The ****ing Molesters Society”. (Miami Herald, April 3, 1995) The ACAA is a lobbying group, which includes Ellen Bass (co-author of THE COURAGE TO HEAL), and Rene Frederickson, leading feminist psychotherapist and strong proponent of repressed memory theory.))

((At the STONE ANGELS satanic ritual abuse conference in Thunder Bay in February, 1995, the following was contained in the handouts at a conference supported financially by the Ontario Government: FMS stands for: FULL OF MOSTLY **bleep**; FOR MORE SADISM; FELONS, MURDERERS, SCUMBALLS; FREQUENT MOLESTERS SOCIETY.))

“Women have their faults / men have only two: / everything they say / everything they do.”
– Popular Feminist Graffiti

“I was, in reality, bred by my parents as my father’s concubine… What we take for granted as the stability of family life may well depend on the sexual slavery of our children. What’s more, this is a cynical arrangement our institutions have colluded to conceal.”.
– Sylvia Fraser; Journalist

“We are taught, encouraged, moulded by and lulled into accepting a range of false notions about the family. As a source of some of our most profound experiences, it continues to be such an integral part of our emotional lives that it appears beyond criticism. Yet hiding from the truth of family life leaves women and children vulnerable.”
– Canadian Panel on Violence Against Women.

Catharine MacKinnon ( ) maintains that “the private is a sphere of battery, marital **bleep** and women’s exploited labor.” In this way, privacy and family are reduced to nothing more than aspects of the master plan, which is male domination. Democratic freedoms and the need to keep the state’s nose out of our personal affairs are rendered meaningless. The real reason our society cherishes privacy is because men have invented it as an excuse to conceal their criminality. If people still insist that the traditional family is about love and mutual aid–ideals which, admittedly, are sometimes betrayed–they’re “hiding from the truth.” The family isn’t a place where battery and marital **bleep** sometimes happen but where little else apparently does. Sick men don’t simply molest their daughters, they operate in league with their wives to “breed” them for that purpose.
– Donna Laframboise; The Princess at the Window; (in a critical explication of the Catharine MacKinnon, Gloria Steinhem et al tenets of misandric belief.)

“If the classroom situation is very heteropatriarchal–a large beginning class of 50 to 60 students, say, with few feminist students–I am likely to define my task as largely one of recruitment…of persuading students that women are oppressed”
– Professor Joyce Trebilcot of Washington University, as quoted in Who Stole Feminism: How Women Have Betrayed Women.

“Men, as a group, tend to be abusive, either verbally, sexually or emotionally. There are always the exceptions, but they are few and far between (I am married to one of them). There are different levels of violence and abuse and individual men buy into this system by varying degrees. But the male power structure always remains intact.”
Message on FEMISA, responding to a request for arguments that men are unnecessary for a child to grow into mature adulthood.

Another posting on FEMISA: “Considering the nature and pervasiveness of men’s violence, I would say that without question, children are better off being raised without the presence of men. Assaults on women and children are mostly perpetrated by men whom they are supposed to love and trust: fathers, brothers, uncles, grandfathers, step-fathers.”
Both quotes taken from Daphne Patai’s excellent critical work, Heterophobia

“At Brandies I discovered Feminism. And I instantly became a convert… writing brilliant papers in my Myths of Patriarchy class, in which I likened my fate as a woman to other victims throughout the ages.”
– Heather Hart 7

Here are 10 reasons why we are concerned about feminism and the National Organization for Women.

1. “The simple fact is that every woman must be willing to be identified as a lesbian to be fully feminist” (National NOW Times, January, 1988).

2. “Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the women’s movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage” (feminist leader Sheila Cronan).

3. In response to a question concerning China’s policy of compulsory abortion after the first child, Molly Yard responded, “I consider the Chinese government’s policy among the most intelligent in the world” (Gary Bauer, “Abetting Coercion in China,” The Washington Times, Oct. 10, 1989).

4. “Overthrowing capitalism is too small for us. We must overthrow the whole…patriarch!” (Gloria Steinem, radical feminist leader, editor of MS magazine).

5. “Marriage has existed for the benefit of men; and has been a legally sanctioned method of control over women…. We must work to destroy it. The end of the institution of marriage is a necessary condition for the liberation of women. Therefore it is important for us to encourage women to leave their husbands and not to live individually with men…. All of history must be re-written in terms of oppression of women. We must go back to ancient female religions like witchcraft” (from “The Declaration of Feminism,” November, 1971).

6. “By the year 2000 we will, I hope, raise our children to believe in human potential, not God.” (Gloria Steinem, editor of MS magazine).

7. “Let’s forget about the mythical Jesus and look for encouragement, solace, and inspiration from real women…. Two thousand years of patriarchal rule under the shadow of the cross ought to be enough to turn women toward the feminist ‘salvation’ of this world.” (Annie Laurie Gaylor, “Feminist Salvation,” The Humanist, p. 37, July/August 1988.

8. “In order to raise children with equality, we must take them away from families and communally raise them” (Dr. Mary Jo Bane, feminist and assistant professor of education at Wellesley College, and associate director of the school’s Center for Research on Woman).

9. “Being a housewife is an illegitimate profession… The choice to serve and be protected and plan towards being a family- maker is a choice that shouldn’t be. The heart of radical feminism is to change that.” (Vivian Gornick, feminist author, University of Illinois, The Daily Illini, April 25, 1981.

10. “The most merciful thing a large family can to do one of its infant members is to kill it.” (Margaret Sanger, founder of Planned Parenthood, in “Women and the New Race,” p. 67).

“We are, as a sex, infinitely superior to men.” — Elizabeth Cady Stanton

From ‘A feminist Dictionary; ed. Kramarae and Triechler, Pandora Press, 1985:

MALE:…represents a variant of or deviation from the category of female. The first males were mutants…the male sex represents a degeneration and deformity of the female.

MAN:…an obsolete life form… an ordinary creature who needs to be watched…a contradictory baby-man…

TESTOSTERONE POISONING: … ‘Until now it has been though that the level of testosterone in men is normal simply because they have it. But if you consider how abnormal their behavior is, then you are led to the hypothesis that almost all men are suffering from “testosterone poisoning.”

Letter to editor: “Women’s Turn to Dominate”. “……Clearly you are not yet a free-thinking feminist but rather one of those women who bounce off the male-dominated, male-controlled social structures. Who cares how men feel or what they do or whether they suffer? They have had over 2000 years to dominate and made a complete hash of it. Now it is our turn. My only comment to men is: if you don’t like it, bad luck–and if you get in my way I’ll run you down.”
Signed: Liberated Women, Boronia Herald-Sun, Melbourne, Australia. 9 Feb., 1996.

Dec 122012
 

Warren Farrell protest at the University of Toronto – Full version
One thing has always struck me as odd, but never so much as it does today. In this country of Canada, where we are prized as one of the most progressive nations around the world, is how our governments continue a seemingly inhabiting assault on Men and boys while standing on a fictional pillar of moral integrity and a disillusion of righteousness. I often wonder what it will take before leaders who continue to siphon billions into this radical hate movement via government funded schools come to grips with the realities. .

Can anyone today even imagine government funded programs in schools that would teach its students that blacks are all rape supporters, pedophiles, prone to violence, unlawfulness and therefore are worthy of censure, vitriol and should be continually and aggressively stripped of their human rights?? At more than one point in our history, this was all too true, but it would seem we are to learn these lessons yet again. .

Colleges and universities are suppose to be places of higher learning and represent the future of civility and governments are suppose to govern that jurisprudence, the fundamental concepts of moral integrity and the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms are strictly upheld.

Most certainly and unquestionably this is not the case. While millions of our dollars are going to feed these women studies programs that clearly teach hatred of men and boys while the purposeful suppression of Men’s centers can only mean one thing. Discrimination!

The government of Canada not only indorses and funds the ideological hatred of men and boys but is fundamentally corrupt and neglectful of its duties and responsibilities to uphold its charters. What will it take? At some point push will most certainly become shove, and when it does, what will be the excuses of those who are responsible for instigating this civil unrest?

It’s high time we started calling out the institutions and organizations that support these hateful ideologues. The University of Toronto is a misandrist, bigoted institution doing nothing to protect male students from these ideologues (and I would encourage young men everywhere to avoid attending this school). Shine a light on CUPE (Canadian Public Employees Union) and their unwavering support of such hatred and censorship (they sponsored the protest, after all), and DEMAND ACCOUNTABILITY of every last one of them.

Interview on Sun news network about the incidence at the conference.

http://www.sunnewsnetwork.ca/video/search/all/source/the-arena/mens-rights-speech-stifled-only-on-a-canadian-campus/2017271843001

http://www.sunnewsnetwork.ca/sunnews/straighttalk/archives/2012/12/20121208-075648.html

Nov 302012
 

 I wanted to alert everybody that I will be appearing today on this segment on female sex predators on Huffington Post Live at 5pm Eastern on Mike Sacks’ show. Feel free to tune in. If you miss it live I am given to understand that the link will still work to see the recorded session afterward.

Some links people may find useful:

Cenk Uygur & The Young Turks pat a victim on the back, says the victim was asking for it. The case of Amie Lou Neely.

A victim who wasn’t believed, a common trait, since most victims of female sex predators are not believed, even though female sexual predators are acknowledged to be at least 25% of the sex predator population and due to under-reporting 25% is almost certainly a low figure.

How sexual predation is considered a bonus when a boy is the victim of a woman.

Also see how female predators groom their victims.

A survey of multiple studies on the growth of female pedophaelia (note: much reason to believe that this “growth” isn’t growth at all, just somebody finally deciding to start taking it seriously and really looking for it.)

A site that seeks to increase awareness of female sex predators.

The cultural siege on men which says that sexual predation is a predominantly male trait is continually eroding. And that’s with good reason: because it’s sexist rubbish.

*Update 2*: How could I forget to mention the men paying child support to their rapists?

Nov 302012
 

Not just no, but Hell No!
Nothing is ever going to change for Men or within our society or within the confines of intimate partner relationships unless or until men stand on their own and demand whatever it is they deem worthy for themselves regardless of what others want. It’s a shit game that women use to control Men into thinking that not following their demands is somehow disrespecting them or that it is betrayal of that relationships fundamentals. Of course, if they do succeed in this manipulation, it’s no wonder why they soon become tired and board of their partners weakness. Women, whether they admit it or not, say so or not, want a man strong enough, at the very least, to be a man onto himself.

This next video shows you exactly how your wife or girlfriend will react when you buy yourself a new car. But you as a true petrolhead will be offered a clear look into what could happen if you buy a brilliant new sports car.

Nov 212012
 

The Canadian Association for Equality invites you to support the men’s centre campaign. In support of the Simon Fraser University Men’s Centre recently approved at that Vancouver campus, help us build men’s centres at every university. We want to provide a welcoming and open space for young people – men and women – facing the serious – and all too common – issues we describe in this video. A place where they can get information and support, connect with others, and stand up together to make a change.

The first step is to start a men’s issues awareness society at your campus. So contact us today at info@equalitycanada.com.

Spread the word by sharing this video and subscribing to our Channel, joining us on Facebook or following us on twitter @equalitycanada.
Tweet about the project using #menscentre

Full Transcript

Segment 1

Men’s Health

I came to the University Men’s Centre to play Xbox and enjoy the pizza and beer, as I heard from some YouTube videos were the main activities I would enjoy there.  But then when my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer I found some important information at the Men’s Centre.

Gay Bullying

My brother was gay. I remember thinking when he came out to the family he was the most courageous person in the world. The other kids didn’t think so and they tormented him mercilessly. He tried to take his own life when he was 17.

Boys and Education

I didn’t do very well in high school and dropped out early. I took a few part time jobs here and there, but when the economic situation went downhill I lost even those opportunities. I’ve been unemployed now for 3 years.

Fathers

My parents divorced when I was 6. The courts awarded sole custody to my mother. I told them it wasn’t what I wanted, but they told me it was in my best interest. I thought having a dad in my life was in my best interest.

Workforce

My father was badly injured in the saw mill explosion in Burns Lake, BC this January. I heard him tell stories of his friends jumping from the second floor to escape the fire and smoke. Just horrible stuff.

Segment 2

Men’s Health

At the University Men’s Centre I learned that prostate cancer is just as deadly as breast cancer (1) yet receives only a fraction of the funding and that the myth that prostate cancer only affects old men just isn’t true. It’s weird, but new studies show that younger men with certain aggressive forms of the disease are actually more prone to dying quicker (2).

Gay Bullying

At the Men’s Centre I learned that men kill themselves three times more often than women.  (3) I also learned that bullying – especially physical bullying – is a much worse problem for boys than girls (4) and boys are over twice as likely to be bullied for being gay, yet less likely to report it or receive any kind of help or support. (5)

Boys and Education

At the Men’s Centre I learned that boys lag behind in secondary school performance and graduation rates significantly. (6) As my friends in university tell me, fewer and fewer men are applying to university. (7)

Fathers

Fatherlessness was rampant in my community, as were drugs and violence. At the Men’s Centre I learned about the consequences of fatherlessness. Children who grow up fatherless are more prone to drug and substance addiction, criminal behaviour, suicide, teen pregnancy, and to wind up in prison. (8), (9) And I can tell you, fatherlessness is certainly not in a child’s best interest.

Workforce

Industries like construction, transportation, fishing, mining, and forestry have two things in common: They are the most dangerous industries in the country, and the jobs are occupied almost entirely by men. (13) We hear a lot about gender in the workplace, but these industries and this issue are all-too-often ignored. At the Men’s Centre I learned that men account for over 60% of workplace injuries (14) and almost all workplace deaths. While the rate of workplace death is thankfully falling for women, it continues to rise for men. (15)

Segment 3

Men’s Health

There’s just so much we don’t understood about prostate cancer. That’s why at the Men’s Centre we support Movember and other initiatives to fundraise and spread awareness about prostate cancer. I’ve also learned about PSA screening tests and encouraged my family members to start taking them.

Gay Bullying

At the Men’s Centre I found social support groups for guys like my brother. I learned how to encourage men to ask for help, and the places I could send them to find it.

Boys and Education

The teachers, most of them women, seemed to pay more attention to the girls in the class and my parents never pushed me as hard as my sister. (10) So at the Men’s Centre I’m working to tutor and mentor young boys in at risk neighborhoods, so that they have as many educational opportunities as possible.

Fathers

The Men’s Centre helped me get over the alienation I had experienced after years when my mother prevented my dad from visiting me and it helped me understand the magnitude of this problem in society. (11) Now I’ve joined a political initiative to make equal shared parenting the presumption when courts award custody.

Wokforce

At the Men’s Centre I learned about occupational safety and about my right to refuse dangerous work. (12) Now, I help host educational events to spread awareness about these rights to other students, especially those working in high-risk jobs.

Segment 4

Men’s Health

I support the Men’s Centre because men’s health is literally a matter of life and death.

Gay Bullying

I support the Men’s Centre because I love my brother.

Boys and Education

I support the Men’s Centre because every case of inequality is important to me.

Fathers

I support the Men’s Centre because I love my dad.

Workforce

I support the Men’s Centre because it might save my life – or maybe even yours.

Call to Action

The Canadian Association for Equality invites you to support the men’s centre campaign. Help us build men’s centres at every university. We want to provide a welcoming and open space for young people – men and women – facing the serious – and all too common – issues we’ve described. A place where they can get information and support. Connect with others. And stand up together to make a change.

SOURCES
(1)
Surveillance Epidemiology and End Results, U.S. National Institutes of Health, http://www.seer.cancer.gov/statfacts/html/pros.html
Surveillance Epidemiology and End Results, U.S. National Institutes of Health, http://www.seer.cancer.gov/statfacts/html/breast.html

(2) Cancer survival statistics by age, Cancer Research UK, www.cancerresearchuk.org/cancer-info/cancerstats/survival/age/cancer-survival-statistics-by-age

(3) At all points in time over the past 60 years, males have had higher rates of suicide than females.

Suicide rates: An overview, Health Canada Statistics Division, July 2012, http://www.statcan.gc.ca/pub/82-624-x/2012001/article/11696-eng.htm

(4) Overall, boys (26%) were more likely to report being victimized by physical bullying compared to girls (16%)
CPHA Safe School Study, Totten, Quigley and Morgan, 2004
www.cpha.ca/uploads/progs/_/safeschools/safe_school_study_e.pdf

(5) ibid.
Proportionally, boys were over twice as likely as girls to suffer this form of harassment…Whereas 14% of boys were affected, 6% of girls were victimized in this way.

(6) Among the 57 countries of the OECD – Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development – 29% more women graduate and go on to university than men.
OECD, Education at a glance, 2010, Table A2.1 (Paris: 2010)

Access Document Exploring the Boys Crises in Education

(7) In Canada in 2005, men made up less than 42% of post-secondary students.  Source: OECD, higher education to 2030, “Volume I: Demography”, 2008, p. 266.

(8) Father-deprivation is a more reliable predictor of criminal activity than race, environment or poverty. Father deprived children are:
- 72% of all teenage murderers,
- 60% of rapists
- 70% of incarcerated kids
- 90% of runaways
National Fatherhood Initiative (U.S.A.), US Bureau of Census (U.S.A.), FBI (U.S.A.)

(9) Children who grew up fatherless are
- twice as likely to quit school
- five times more likely to commit suicide
- 8 times more likely to go to prison
- 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances
The Institute for the Study of Civil Society ( Civitas ) U.K. Stunning statistics on the problems of fatherless homes Experiments in Living: The Fatherless Family
Referenced by Canadian Children’s Rights Council – Conseil canadien des droits des enfants: Fatherlessness in Canada http://www.canadiancrc.com/Fatherlessness/Fatherlessness_in_Canada.aspx

(10) Dr. Cappon suggests we “need to change culture and social norms affecting the development of boys’ values and self images”. The big problem is the gap in literacy, reading and writing. reading and education are viewed as girl activities.
Exploring the “Boy Crisis” in Education, Dr. Paul Cappon, Canadian Council on Learning, Bosch Foundation, Berlin, January 27-29, 2011
Access Document Exploring the Boys Crises in Education

(11) As of 2006 there were 1,132,290 single mother families, 20.7% of all families are single mother families, and number is increasing
Statistics Canada, 2006 Census
http://www.statcan.gc.ca/tables-tableaux/sum-som/l01/cst01/famil50a-eng.htm

77.7% of sole custody orders were granted to the mother, 5.2% to the father.
source: National Longitudinal Survey of Children and Youth (NLSCY)

mothers have physical custody 88.0% of the time, whereas fathers have physical custody 6.4% of the time.
Source: Canada: Department of Justice. Sharing Custody – When Parents Separate: Further Findings from the Natioanl Longitudinal Survey of Children and Youth (2004-FCY-6E). Updated: Dec 5, 2011.
http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/fcy-fea/lib-bib/rep-rap/2005/2004_6/p3.html

(12) Source: Compensation Boards of Canada (AWCBC)

(13) Human Resources and Skills Development Canada http://www4.hrsdc.gc.ca/.3ndic.1t.4r@-eng.jsp?iid=20

(14) 30 times more men than women die on the job, or 97% of workplace fatalities are men.
Centre for the study of living standards  Referenced here: http://www.kanetix.ca/ic_life_info_life_articles

(15) http://www.hrsdc.gc.ca/eng/labour/publications/health_safety/refuse/page00.shtml
16,453

Nov 212012
 

Despite about 100 protestors blocking the entrance to my presentation on Boys to Men at the University of Toronto this past Friday, Nov. 16, I was ultimately able to speak. (You can see footage of the protest here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=TLyRvmrdsJI)

This video is a post-presentation interview with me (Warren Farrell) and one of the event organizers representing the Canadian Association for Equality (CAFÉ). I address the following:

Why the physically and verbally violent protestors who tore down and defaced hundreds of posters? In part, because my Boys to Men presentation was sponsored by CAFÉ. CAFÉ is a non-profit, self-funded group affiliated with the U of Toronto. It’s only a year old. Some feminist-oriented groups, and especially the Socialist Workers Party, objected to their efforts to bring to the U of Toronto an understanding of the boy crisis and the importance of incorporating boys and men’s issues into the discussion of gender issues.

From their perspective, boys and men’s issues equal men’s rights; men are the oppressors and the rapists; and a university shouldn’t be allowing “hate speech.” From my perspective, boys and men are in the same family boat as women and girls, and boys are experiencing a boy crisis throughout the industrialized world that is hurting boys, families, the economy and those of our daughters who wish to parent their children with motivated and loving men.

Of course, the media is covering the heat, but if you’re interested in: the causes of the boy crisis; solutions; and how you can more effectively help boys avoid the “failure to launch,” go to whitehouseboysmen (www.whitehouseboysmen.org), CAFÉ (www.equalitycanada.com), and The Myth of Male Power (www.warrenfarrell.org). My homepage is www.warrenfarrell.com .

Oct 152012
 

By Jack Day

No U Turn

I have been subscribed to a local dating ‘Meetup’ for some time. I regularly receive mail about the goings on but for me at least, I had long since dismissed the group as on one occasion they invited a prostitute to speak to men in a lecture where this women who has spent her life exploiting men, masculinity, and their sexuality for financial profit and personal gains. This was introduced as a viable source of relevant information as to how man today need to be pussy beggars to what I see as the most despicable form of male bashing in the realm of helpful dating advice.

Since most of this just ends up in my spam folder, I most often never see the tripe being produced within this group. But on this day I could not help but read some of the dribble set forth and decided to send a comment back to the group in question. What follows is the note I sent back to the group and the mail I received. . I thought I would also post it here as fair warning to any such guys out there who also participate with such groups.

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Hmmm ya.

In reading some of the comments here, about this book and to be honest some of the information being passed around within this group, I most certainly have some concerns.

I am all about PUA teachings and have read and practiced many of the things young men need to know about the game of playing with women. But I have some serious concerns about the way in which some of the ideas are passed around here without any concern for the safety and well being of the men involved. For example you would not want to teach a young man to drive a car but neglect to tell him of the safety factors that are involved in that he doesn’t end up in a hospitable missing an appendage or two.

That does however seem to be what is going on in these conversations, these books and within this group. (well… at lease that is what I am hearing.)

I just want to be the voice that is saying that one of the most damaging things men can do now days is to be involved with women!! Do I need to say that again? Are you all seeing ‘both sides’ of the picture here?? There are tens of millions of men out there who have had their lives totally destroyed by being involved with women, having children with them, getting caught up in abusive relationships with them and so on.

No, I am not trying to be a ball buster here or saying one of the best things about being a man is all the yummy things that can be had by playing with women. But what I am saying is if you are not playing a safe and intelligent game, you may end up with a lot more negative than good.

For example: Did you all know that more than 50% of pregnancies are unplanned? Yup, that’s right! and while women have access to more than 12 forms of birth control (and men have only one) it stands to reason that; (a)most women lie about their protection and (b) 50% of you men will buy into these lies and will be a father of unwanted children. Are you taking into consideration just how much damage you could cause to the rest of your entire life by just one fuckup like this?

Do you recognize all the pitfalls that are possible? Do you have a plan or methods within your game that at lease limits your exposure?? Did you also know that 30% of DNA tests prove that the named fathers are false? That women often lie because ‘you’ have a bigger wallet? And that the family courts will often disallow DNA court orders because they want to keep you on the hook for paying for an illegitimate child? Or that even if you have proven the child you had been supporting is not yours you may be ordered to support that child, and her, for the rest of your life??

And while we are at it; did you all know that 1 in 4 rape allegations are false?? So while you are too busy preparing for date number three, and bragging about what a cool dude you are and the three dates you have this week, number one date may be filing a false rape charge against you because she feels like you used her as a fuck toy, seeing you out on date two, or not calling her back the next day!!

Ya sure, this is all fun and games until someone gets hurt! And hurt they do, by the thousands!! Now that is pretty sobering and most certainly something to be considered, especially if all you are concerned with is how many women you can fuck at one time, don’t you think??

So again, I am not saying that reading about game and books like this is a bad thing. . For many of us there is a wealth of knowledge and I am sure we can all agree knowledge is power. But if you are not hearing the full truth / or one half the story, than a little knowledge is a dangerous thing. You can’t really expect books like this are going to make you enthused or excited to follow through with the game suggested if you are all bungled up with how doing so may earn you a 25 year stay in some jail some place, and this is why books like this don’t often talk about such things. It sounds reasonable to suggest that the motivations to face down their shyness around women will not be conquered by scaring the living shit out of some guy that is already trying to face his fears down.

But let me suggest this. If you are fully aware of the hurt and danger you are likely to be engaged in is a prevalent part of your equating women, would that not also give you confidence?

No shit here… We all know what it is like to see some of those yummy women out there and get those feelings of (wholly fucking shit, look at all that sexy junk) and feel like we will never measure up to what you see before you. Am I right? I think most guys are automatically intimidated by all that…

But let’s say in your mind you are relating what you see to all the negative aspects of what is possible… I am sure you can see that you now have a more realistic view of reality and will therefore not be so timid knowing full well that all that yummy looking back at you may in fact be a death sentence, will you??

As you may have guessed by now, I am a Men’s rights activist more so than a PUA enthusiast. I have seen more broken and damaged men and boys than I even care to describe. I am not blaming anybody. But being a Man in today’s world is about being knowledgeable and responsible to your selves on all counts. So all I am saying is have a look around at the many concepts and ideals that are in great abundance today for men and boys. You may just find you will not only become better with the many aspects of being around women but will also be able to do so in a safer, knowledgeable understanding and awareness of the reality you face.

—————– The Email ———————-

 

Ola, como estas?
I’m in Panama right now and things have been pretty wild here.
Man… do I have a story for you… :-)

Hope you enjoyed that video I sent out the other day. I’ll have
some more coming that I’ll be posting on my blog and will send
out to you.

But first, wanted to shoot you a quick e-mail to share with you
a reality-altering story that just happened last night.

As you may or may not know, I am travelling South America
for 2-3 months. I arrived in Panama on Wednesday and then
will be making my way down to Colombia and further south.

Since being here… all I can say is WOW! The women here
are incredible, and the genetics that these women have are
something that are simply non-existant in North America.
And let me tell you, I’ve been having LOADS of fun. :-)

On Friday night my friends and I hit up a rooftop lounge bar
and I ended up meeting this sexy half latin, half Italian girl
with giant fake breasts that I ended up going home with. It
was a lot of fun, I simply said “Ola” to her as she was walking
by and then asked if she spoke English, which she did. From
there, I just did my usual game and escalated with her as I have
done in countless situations.

But, that’s not the crazy story I wanted to tell you about… it was
actually just LAST NIGHT I was saying to my friend how I
wanted to fulfill a recent fantasy of having a threesome with two
9.5′s and was going to make it happen.

Well, sure enough, I end up meeting this smoking hot girl from
Venezula and it was immediately GAME ON. She spoke pretty
decent English and there was a lot of flirting and playful teasing
going on right from the start. Once I knew I had her hooked and
could bring her back to my hotel, I told her about this fantasy I
had and asked if she had any friends.

Well… turns out she has a few. She literally took me by the hand
and led me around the bar and asked her which one of her friends
that I liked. I picked the other, and turns out the friend was open
to it and down (unfortunately her English wasn’t that great… but
didn’t matter).

So here I was, off into the night with a smoking hot Venezulan
and Colombian girl, taking a taxi back to my hotel. I’m not going
to go into the rest of the story… but let’s just say that it was an
experience that I’ll never forget. I’ve had threesomes before, but
this was something worth crossing off the bucket list.

Today, moments before writing this e-mail, I was thinking about
what made ALL OF THIS HAPPEN.
What made these results with women and success a reality?

I realized it was because of a simple DECISION that I made years
ago, when I was shy, introverted, and had zero success with girls.

The decision was to COMMIT myself to changing – to do whatever
it took to change and improve myself to be the type of man that can
attract beautiful women into my life with ease, naturally.
While it was a simple decision, I can tell you that it wasn’t easy.

It took honestly looking at myself in the mirror and admitting that
I could use help. While it was painful in the moment, that decision
has changed my life forever and now I get to reap the rewards of it.

The unfortunate thing I notice is, most people I’ve met aren’t willing
to make that decision – they would rather stay where they are and
remain comfortable.

It’s sad… because nothing will ever change or get better by just sitting
around and being passive. Time literally passes them by and it isn’t
until years go by that they realize this.
I never wanted that to be me… and I hope it’s not you.

I asked myself the question, “What can I do to help people really
change and get the success and results they want?”

And the only answer I really came up with is to speak honestly and
openly to people to get them to wake up and get to that point where
they finally COMMIT to doing what it takes.

I could tell you what to do or how to do it… but without the commitment
then NOTHING will happen.
Are you following me here?

Years ago I wrote a popular e-book called Mastering Success With
Women, and it’s something that I don’t promote as much as I should.

=> Check out Mastering Success With Women.

But, I KNOW it will help you, if you’re committed and ready to take
that step. If you don’t want success with women and aren’t really
committed to do what it takes, then don’t bother.

If this e-mail speaks to you in some way and you honestly reflect on
where you’re at and where you want to go, then this could be a really
defining moment in your life. And that is my hope for you – that you
make that DECISION to do what it takes to get this handled.

Check out my website and letter that I wrote below. Click the link,
read it thoroughly, and then get serious once and for all about making
this happen for yourself. I can guarantee you that you’ll look back
and be happy that you did.

=> I’m committed to Mastering Success With Women.

Good luck, my friend. Let me know if you have any questions or
if there’s any way I can serve. I’m travelling around a lot so won’t
have as much access to e-mail as I’d like, but I’ll do my best.

Take care,
Stefan

P.S. Ask yourself, what do you really want with women and dating?

And then follow that up with WHY do you want it? Why are you
willing to do what it takes? How will it benefit your life? And more
importantly, what will it cost you if you don’t make it happen?

Oct 142012
 

BabaNo matter what, the deal-e-o is with you and those many hot girls you’re fuckin, today’s Masculist Men know, protecting themselves against unwanted pregnancy is, and should be, a primary concern for all Men. Planning a-head, and be-hind, can be one of the best ways to protect yourself and being on the ball here, just may be the difference between keeping them!

What this means is, that you MEN should have at the ready, a few “plan B” (aka, Morning after pill) kits at your disposal at all times. Keep one in your car and don’t be afraid to leave it behind, if you have reason to believe your partner is not being totally honest. . Or maybe you run into some condom difficulties or even spill a bit. .

** Guys look. This is “your seminal fluid” and it’s all on “you” to insure it is being used as “you” intended and being a responsible Masculist Man, is all about protecting “what is yours”. . Guys, we have a natural tendency to think this yummy stuff is like play goo, and well.. fair enough. . But what you leave behind and where you leave it could very well be a life altering decision for more than a few reasons!!. .

Have one or more Plan “B” in your home and prominently place it in your bathroom should she need it, let her know it is there for her if she thinks she may. Tell her you get them for free so she doesn’t feel obliged! And if you’re going to boink her again, ask her to take one home!! I don’t want to get into a long list of the many reasons some women may be willing to lie about their protection status, but needless to say, they, (and your choices), are all irrelevant once she becomes pregers. .

So remember, planning ahead and behind is the Masculists way!! Here are a few factoids you, and her, may want to know about…

Plan B is effective up to 72 hours after an accident, prevents pregnancy – not an abortion pill. Plan B is available without a prescription and is now sold over the counter. Last time I checked they only cost less than $50.00. . If you think that’s expensive guys, you should conceder the cost of raising a kid today is about $321,140.00.

Misconceptions can lead to conception. More often than you might think, unwanted pregnancies happen because we don’t have all the facts. Or, if we do have the facts, we sometimes kid ourselves they don’t apply to us. If you’ve had unprotected sex or a contraceptive accident, you are at risk of an unwanted pregnancy – So don’t wait till it’s too late. It’s only human to put off decisions or tell ourselves that everything’s fine. But if you wait for the next period, you may have a much bigger decision to make. Or worse yet, you may be faced with a decision “you” are unable to make!

I’ve had unprotected sex. Am I likely to get pregnant? She can get pregnant at any time during your monthly cycle—the start of one period to the beginning of the next. Although people talk about a “safe time of the month,” it’s hard to tell when this is, for many reasons.

The most fertile time of the month is when you’re ovulating (producing an egg), but most women aren’t aware when this is happening. Also, it takes several days for an egg to make its way from the ovary down the Fallopian tube and an egg can be fertilized at any point during this journey. Sperm can live for up to seven days, so even if you haven’t ovulated when you have sex, the sperm could still fertilize the egg afterwards.

Many women don’t have regular periods. The time between her periods can vary, depending on what’s happening in your life, whether you’re stressed, and whether or not you’re eating properly. This makes it even more difficult to calculate your “safe” time.
When accidents happen, and you don’t want to get pregnant, emergency contraception is there as a backup. It’s not something you should use regularly and you should never think of it as an alternative to a long-term method of birth control.

Is plan B an abortion pill? Absolutely not. It may be comforting to know that plan B does not work if you are already pregnant (a fertilized egg has attached to the wall of the uterus). So if you take plan B, you will not be terminating a pregnancy. However, if you already have a confirmed pregnancy, you should not use plan B because it will not be effective.

Will plan B throw off her period? Plan B has no long-term effect on her monthly cycle. Most women will get their period when expected and their cycle will continue as normal. For some women, their period can come earlier or later than usual and be lighter or heavier. If her period is delayed more than a week or if you have any other cause for concern, talk to a health professional. More than occasional use (more than once within a menstrual cycle or more than once a month) may upset your menstrual cycle.

Will plan B affect her fertility? There is no evidence that plan B has any effect on a woman’s future ability to become pregnant. If the pill fails or if you already have a confirmed pregnancy, there is no evidence that plan B will harm the developing fetus.

Do I need a prescription for plan B? Plan B is available at pharmacies across Canada without a prescription from your doctor. It is kept behind the counter in Saskatchewan and is available under prescription by your pharmacist in Quebec. Plan B is available over the counter in Alberta, British Columbia, Manitoba, New Brunswick, Newfoundland and Labrador, Nova Scotia, Nunavut, the Northwest Territories, Ontario, Prince Edward Island, and the Yukon. It can be found in either of these sections: Birth Control, Contraceptives, Feminine Hygiene or Family Planning. . In a province where plan B is kept behind the pharmacy counter, the pharmacist will need to ask you a few simple questions before giving you plan B to ensure its right for you. These professionals have been trained to treat requests for emergency contraception sympathetically and confidentially. In some cases, your pharmacist may refer you to a doctor or clinic for emergency contraception instead. .

How often can I take plan B? Plan B should only be used in emergencies and not on a regular basis. However, there is no medical reason why you can’t use it more than once. Remember that it should never replace regular, long-term methods of contraception. The pregnancy rate of plan B is calculated for a single use and is 98% effective if started within 72 hours of unprotected intercourse. . If plan B is used on more than one occasion, the cumulative pregnancy rate will be higher. Also, if plan B is taken more than once within a menstrual cycle or more than occasional once-a-month use, it may upset your period.

Although few people experience vomiting with plan B, if you vomit within one hour of taking plan B, you might not have absorbed the medication in the pills. Call your healthcare professional, as you might need another dose.

After you’ve taken plan B, you should get your next period at the expected time, or a few days early or late. You may experience spotting a few days after taking plan B. While you’re waiting for your next period, abstain from having intercourse or make sure you use a contraceptive.

If you’ve taken plan B because of missed birth control pills, ask your pharmacist or doctor about the best way for you to restart them. Remember to use another method of contraception, such as condoms, until your birth control is working again.

http://www.planb.ca/


You are a Masculist Man…
You have (lots) of NSA sex…
You used a condom…
You took it with you!!
And,
You left a Plan ‘B’ on the table, with a sexy little note, just in-case, xoxo!!